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Chinese language is body-language – interrupting communication- (4)

Volker once told me about this specific difficulty when filming in China. He remembered the time when he did a documentation film on psychotherapy in China. There were many people who sat in the room, his camera “pointed” to a person, standing, who talked about an experience. After some time this person stopped talking, so that Volker after some time tried to focus on another person, who was moving a little or, as it seemed to be, was probably the next to talk about his experience. Doing this  led to the point of missing an important moment. The Chinese who had talked and stopped talking suddenly went on talking, went on talking in a way as if he had not interrupted his presented experience. And it was important what he talked about.

In Germany or probably in other Western countries we get a feeling of ………………..

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Meister, Lehrer

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chinese language is body-language -writing graphics- (2)

Well, I want to add some comments on the issue which I started yesterday. To focus it: Chinese language is body language at least because of two aspects:

  • the pronunciation
  • the writing / painting the graphics and “letters”.

If you want to write/paint very properly, that means, if you want that the person who reads, what you painted, knows what you mean by this word or graphic, you also have to be very calm and centered in yourself. And being centered is a very important state of emotion, state of bodily presence. Connected with a sensible awareness of what is going in yourself, what becomes alive in yourself, what you want to express or communicate and what your interest is to write this graphic or another one. All is grounded in the necessity to be also aware of your counterpart, the person with whom you communicate.

It is not only just writing down some letters or graphics.

In some way it reminds me of the monks ………..

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 China Kurs für Manager

this is a good example to show how difficult it is to get used to the very different Chinese culture. Even if you are informed about the specific habits it is another chapter to experience the differences in real life in contrast to a role play in a workshop. A role play does not lead to certain important consequences. It is and stays to be a role play. To experience this in real life when you are for example in China always confronts you with certain real consequences. Maybe you work for a contract, maybe you are interested in getting some specific help andsoon. Facing those cultural differences produces stress in the relationship and in yourself.

Stress in this case is of course not a good advisor or consultant. Because stress mostly opens up your own, old patterns of behaviour. That means those patterns of behaviour which you ave learnt ihn your life to be the best to help to survive.

BUT……………………….

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Cultural factors and psychotherapy in China

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Regarding emotional or psychosomatic difficulties or problems we talk about I was asked to say more about how to handle this in daily life and or in therapy. Here is some comment:

What is the culture of psychotherapy in China? What makes up the thinking and feeling processes in the typical Chinese client? Understanding these questions gives us a beginning of how to understand and make trusting alliances with the Chinese patient. Several factors play a large role in the Chinese culture and character that affect attitudes toward seeking help and dealing with emotional difficulties.

Other-centered culture: Many Chinese people see their own problems as coming last compared to the welfare of others. While this is adaptive and socially valuable for the culture at large, it also keeps ………………….

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 Eating and enjoying……

a good friend of mine just left for China. He will stay there for about three weeks. He went to China roundabout 1985 when the country still was so different to nowadays. He remembers and told us how Beijing looked like without so many cars, just bicycles, busses and some taxis. No paved road to the airport andsoon. From those days he went there for so many times that he perhaps can´t count the stays there any more.

We listened to him and his stories while enjoying some wonderful Chinese food. ………

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