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What is harmony vs. cohesion?

China is famous and well-known for the basic value “harmony”. In former times and today. Harmony characterizes philosophy, culture, society and politics. It seems that life is harmony, or it should be like this.

The concept of harmony in Chinese culture comes from music. Confucianism played a key part in the formulation of the earliest form of Chinese music, Qin. Qin music illustrates the concept of harmony through its techniques such as the level of pressure and the speed of tempo, which symbolize Yin and Yang and the different temperature in the four seasons. (If you want to read more look here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socialist_Harmonious_Society) ………Music, under Confucian concepts, has the power to transform people to become more civilized and the goal of music is to create balance within individuals, nature and society. Leading people “back to the correct direction in life” not only

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Stranger – Danger or:

 (N)ever talk to a stranger

I of course agree to the six rules for children in order to prevent any kind of bad experience, so that they can keep their boundaries.

But to be honest, I want to talk about meeting strangers in the life as youth and adult.

Globalization is based on meeting strangers, strange people, strange cultures, strange behavior. So, to survive or ……….

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Money, money, money – love?

A colleague of mine told me a little story about the love-relationship between a Chinese woman and a German teacher. Both were really in love with each other. As they wanted to celebrate a special anniversary they decided to go to Munich for a weekend-trip. They had a wonderful time there. They both enjoyed the scenery, the walks through the ancient part of town, the delicious meals in various typical Bavarian restaurants and of course felt more in love then before.

 The colleague of mine than explained a strange behavior of the Chinese woman. During the day-time when they were in Munich she put down some notes into a little notebook. Notes about what they’ve bought, what they’ve eaten, where they’ve lived and so on. She noted this and counted the specific price, e.g. having dinner, having bought some ice-cream, having bought a new dress and so on. In the evening she summarized all the costs and smiled ……….

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Save my life…..

how would you react.

And of course how would it be for you to be saved like this, all on a sudden?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YPhWq_T-P8&feature=share

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The price is not the value, or: experience of social coldness

Unfortunately is this article only in German: China in the future will be more and more confronted with the experience of  economic decline or social coldness. Here is one example of what can happen

http://www.spiegel.de/panorama/china-christen-muessen-ihre-treffen-geheim-organisieren-a-865342.html

and in English:

http://www.presstv.ir/detail/187917.html

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Indians vs. Germans 😉

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10151305103278529

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love vs. politics

An American “hero” and an integer director of the CIA becomes dangerous for US politicians and some kind of political inner circle. This political and social affair mirrors the bigoted US attitude towards love, security and politics. Up to the exposure of this love affair Petraeus`image was stable, clean and integer. Her image also. People, society and politicians trusted him.

From one moment to the other all this broke down. The image broke down. And people now believe that one could no longer trust this ( the same) man.

In other, former cases like this, politicians decided in another way. Not this kind of publicity and no big media hype. Not this kind of hysterical prosecuting. Not this prompt demand towards Petraeus to quit his job at once.

What is the matter now, today, in this case? Why do offcials ……………..

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Mr. Muo’s Travelling Couch

“……………Tonight, as this Chinese train pursues its inexorable journey, neither the hardness of the seat nor the press of his fellow passengers seems to bother him. Nor is he distracted by the alluring passenger in oversized sunglasses (a showbiz wannabe travelling incognito, perhaps?), sitting by the opposite window beside a young couple and across from three elderly women. She is graciously tilting her head in his direction while resting her elbow on the folding table. But no indeed, neither train nor intriguing stranger can offer our Mr. Muo such transport as he finds this moment in words and writing, the language of a distant land and especially of his dreams, which he records and analyses with …………………..

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Integration  :  a short short-story

I have the money,

 I have the body,

We follow our heart.

 

Both decide big change in their life.

She is killed in a car accident.

He brings her dead body back to her family in China.

http://www.sueddeutsche.de/medien/ard-mittwochsfilm-im-jahr-des-drachen-auf-dem-holzweg-1.1491785

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Eyes and eye contact can also be a torture

I remember the report of a female client talking about her childhood and expressing the specific, typical aspect of relationship between her and her mother.

When she had done something (wrong) or when the mother disagreed with the one or the other aspect of what my client had done as a child, her mother used to address her daughter with the following word: “Come to me, look into my eyes and tell me the truth. What have you done, didn’t you know, that I disagree with what you say.

Tell me the truth. And don`t forget, …………

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