Function of the eyes (an embodyed story -part 8 -)
Eyes are the key:
- The key in first sight contact
- The key as it is a visual contact
- The key which helps to distinguish: YOU and ME
- The key which proofs that…………….
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Is there a difference between you and me? (An embodyed story -7-)
of course I could relax besides this young lady. I felt quite comfortable lying there when my attention always moved back to these faces. The puppets touched each other and gave the impression ” we belong together”. We are here and we know what we want. We are aware of YOU being here but we do NOT address you. We don`t want you to become important by ………
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To drink a toast to somebody
Last week I talked to a manager who had been busy in China for quite a long time. He told me a very personal experience which as he underlined had a deeper meaning for him which he had not yet puzzled out.
Each time when there was a business dinner everybody tried to drink a toast to him and his German colleagues. He felt this to be an important gesture towards the foreign guests. As there were only some Germans and many Chinese often it was not easy for each Chinese and for each table to have enough time to drink a toast. Perhaps you can imagine this kind of social stress in the restaurant where he had been.
Well, judged from a German point of view, one could say, that ……………..
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Change (3) and Palaver – Traditional African Decision making
Maybe you have heard about palaver. In Germany we understand palaver as talking this and that, small talk and things like this.
But: palaver in Africa is a very old, important communication model of social and political discussion/discourse. Psychoanalysts and ethnologists did a lot of research on that in the 1920s. Here is a short picture about palaver in those days.
“They sit under a tree and talk until ……………
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Cultural Etiquette in Germany –
a balancing act between guide and stereotype
well, people here in Germany aren`t like this in everyday life. 😉
Though this etiquette mirrors some German principles, we nowadays have defined th things down. Fortunately. 😉
The People
Germans value order, privacy and punctuality. They are thrifty, hard working and industrious. Germans respect …………..
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Dear reader from Huangshan……
….I realize that you often read my blog. Who ever you are and what ever interest you have, I would be pleased if you could comment some of my posts. Or / and pick up some contact to me. I would like to ………
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Zeit der Halluzinationen or time for halluzination
It is a pity that I don´t translate this little statement of my college Simone Pika into English. To be honest I am a bit too lazy today because of the weather. 😉 Sorry for that. T make it short, she says that we humans often live in the past or the future. Primates live in the here and now!!! And that is often much better and more successful.
Eine besondere Eigenschaft menschlicher Sprache und menschlicher Kognition ist, dass wir uns in unseren Gesprächen und Gedanken vorwiegend im Gestern und im Morgen bewegen. Kleiner Test: Sie sitzen……..
Gender imbalance or: love has to be an effective and efficient project
Though this info dates back to 2010 it is more or less very up to date. The actuality even grows from year to year. The severe consequences for men and women in China will also grow from year to year. All this has of course a deep impact on (nonverbal) communication and relationship in China. Probably also among Chinese in other countries.
Remembering some Chinese talking about looking for or finding a man or a woman, or being found and chosen leads to peculiar and strange behavior between the sexes. For example, talking about this life issue often is connected to the perspective of having more or less a chance to find someone or to be found by someone. Looking for a relationship, trying to find someone to relate to and to fall in love with is ……………
Read MoreBody-painting and ritualisation
There’s a long tradition in body-painting in almost all cultures. Still nowadays you find body-painting connected with important cultural rituals, special dance performance, in theater and so on. Insofar body-painting is an official, socially and culturally accepted habit for special purposes and with a special meaning. And it is necessary for those cultures.
People who are part of those rituals know what they do, that they do it and they know about the meaning of what they’re doing. They feel integrated in society and in the culture and often they are proud of being part of this. Even if they do not know consciously there is a social knowing, a social unconscious knowing.
Each person feels being part and this helps to feel being accepted also on the very personal level of self-expression. One could think that there is not such a shame which I felt in the man’s reaction I talked about some days ago in my blog.
Body-painting and body-language related ……………..
Read MoreThe first impression 2
The first impression influences the relationship you can call it the chemistry between the people. It “defines” if you like someone or not.
This first impression is very resistant to “good arguments”. If you e.g. like someone by the first impression you will not be easily convinced by others and “good arguments” that this person is as good or as competent as you feel it from the point of view of the first impression. This functions also in the other way around: if you do not like sommeone from the first impression, there is quite a lot of resistance to arguments which try to convince you about the opposite.
Even if the first impression is so important you can never train or prepare well enough for this moment. It happens as it happens. It is as it is. The only way you can prepare a bit is to be open for this dynamic, for this to happen and for this to occur.
So one important step you can do is, to at least let youself fall down in the situation you are in. To give in to your feelings, to your way of keeping up grounding in the moment you are in.
And don’t forget: There is never a second chance for the first impression 😉
But also be sure, that another first impression can occur. Be open for it and do not feel too desparately. This what happens is human. And this happens to everybody around you.
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