Body-language and nonverbal communication

The skin is the message 4 – body painting and ritualisation –

14-07-2012

Body language, nonverbal communication, society

Body-painting and ritualisation

There’s a long tradition in body-painting in almost all cultures. Still nowadays you find body-painting connected with important cultural rituals, special dance performance, in theater and so on. Insofar body-painting is an official, socially and culturally accepted habit for special purposes and with a special meaning. And it is necessary for those cultures.

People who are part of those rituals know what they do, that they do it and they know about the meaning of what they’re doing. They feel integrated in society and in the culture and often they are proud of being part of this. Even if they do not know consciously there is a social knowing, a social unconscious knowing.

Each person feels being part and this helps to feel being accepted also on the very personal level of self-expression. One could think that there is not such a shame which I felt in the man’s reaction I talked about some days ago in my blog.

Body-painting and body-language related ……………..

The skin is the message 3 – Tattoo and shame –

By: Ulrich Sollmann

11-07-2012

Body language, nonverbal communication

Tattoo and shame

It happened about two weeks ago when I travelled by underground in Berlin. It was a hot summer day. People wore light clothing so that I could see very clearly that someone sitting opposite to me had a tattoo on his shoulder. The man sitting together obviously with his girlfriend, arm in arm, had many very colourful and artificial painted tattoos on his shoulder and his neck. I began to look more intensely to those tattoos and tried to find out what they symbolised, and what the symbols were saying to me.

When it happened just on a sudden that this man addressed me obviously quite aggressive with the words: “Why are you staring at me? What are you looking for?” Meanwhile his girl-friend tried to cover her own tattoo. You can imagine how astonished I was about this reaction. I felt very friendly looking, I felt in a good mood admiring those paintings on the body. And I felt very interested in trying to decrypt the shown symbols.

Of course I right away realized the slightly aggressive tone in the man’s voice. Of course I felt rejected ………….

The skin is the message 2 – Western body painting –

By: Ulrich Sollmann

10-07-2012

Body language, News, nonverbal communication

Western body painting

Last week there was the world bodypainting-festival with the world championship in different categories in Austria. The world awards were presented to more than 40,000 visitors. Artists from more than 40 nations joined the competition for the world champion titles.

Body-painting is body-language and nonverbal communication! Body-painting also is a kind of fashion, a kind of self-presentation. Body-painting also is some kind of art.

To be honest I feel much more familiar with this kind of skin-message than the message of……………………

The skin is the message 1 – Chinese sun bathing

By: Ulrich Sollmann

09-07-2012

Body language, News, nonverbal communication

Chinese sun bathing

since some years you will find more and more masked faces, probably women`s faces, along the beaches in China. The Austrian media “Standard” notes this today. Chinese women tend to cover their faces in order to keep their white skin safe. That means: white. And only a white face. The rest of the body can get coloured by the sun.

Why do Chinese women do this since some years? How can you explain the growing trend to cover the faces with such a plastic mask? Why only the face, and not the rest of the body?

In Western countries their was such a habit ………………….

Chinese number gestures

By: Ulrich Sollmann

08-07-2012

Body language, nonverbal communication

Chinese number gestures

we do it in a different way. And we in western countries are used to it. So just try how the Chinese do it. Try to count with your fingers and you will see and feel how strange it feels to do a gesture in a slightly different way as you did before. Gestures are part of the body so to say. Gestures are part of me as a person. They are part of a long process of experience. Of course they are learnt gestures. But after being inhaled, so to say incorporated they are part of me. And it feels as some kind of natural gesture.

Enjoy yourself by trying these gestures. Try it again tomorrow. Try it again next week. It will take quite a long time until you have inhaled them. And you will get this feeling of some newly established incorporated natural ffeling of your body.

http://www.echineselanguagelearning.com/leisure/travel-in-china/cthe-useful-chinese-body-language-number-gestures.html

The first impression 2

By: Ulrich Sollmann

07-07-2012

Body language, nonverbal communication

The first impression 2

The first impression influences the relationship you can call it the chemistry between the people. It “defines” if you like someone or not.
This first impression is very resistant to “good arguments”. If you e.g. like someone by the first impression you will not be easily convinced by others and “good arguments” that this person is as good or as competent as you feel it from the point of view of the first impression. This functions also in the other way around: if you do not like sommeone from the first impression, there is quite a lot of resistance to arguments which try to convince you about the opposite.

Even if the first impression is so important you can never train or prepare well enough for this moment. It happens as it happens. It is as it is. The only way you can prepare a bit is to be open for this dynamic, for this to happen and for this to occur.

So one important step you can do is, to at least let youself fall down in the situation you are in. To give in to your feelings, to your way of keeping up grounding in the moment you are in.
And don’t forget: There is never a second chance for the first impression 😉

But also be sure, that another first impression can occur. Be open for it and do not feel too desparately. This what happens is human. And this happens to everybody around you.

The first impression 1

By: Ulrich Sollmann

06-07-2012

Body language, nonverbal communication, psychology

The first impression 1

Non-verbal communication and body-language always starts with a first impression. Either it is the first impression of the person. That means you see this person for the first time in your life. Or it is the first impression in some new encounter. So to say the first moment you meet someone again.

Tough you know the person,each encounter is different and is characterized by a typical first impression.
What is the first impression? What happens?
The first impression is created within about 0,24 sec. This is done so fast that you never ………………….

Mc-body-reading

By: Ulrich Sollmann

05-07-2012

Body language, psychology

Mc-body-reading

At least in Germany body-language is a very popular issue. People often think that you can analyse someone very quickly in order to know what to do and how to behave. Or in order to be prepared about the others acting and behaving.

But there is a big misunderstanding about body-language and body-reading. Far too often body-language is regarded to be useful under the photographic perspective.

This means:

If you look at someone, see his actual gesture that this gesture always has the same meaning and when you can identify this gesture and the meaning that you know what it’s all about.

But this can be true but it does not have to be true. This photographic kind of body reading seems to be popular because it misleads to a, I will call it, instant body-reading.

Body-language has to be of course regarded, and I hope you will agree to this, under various perspectives. At least it is always as I told you about some weeks ago, expression of the other and my own impression as observer. And of course result of the specific culture.

Rescuing hug

By: Ulrich Sollmann

01-07-2012

Body language, nonverbal communication, science

Rescuing hug

Nonverbal communication accompanies us from the very beginning. It does not start in the moment of birth. It is some kind of subtile, on-going, very sensibel and convincing interchange between mother and (unborn) child. Sceíentific research proofs this as an overall phenomena in all cultures. It is something which mirrors an important nature of humans. Here is one very interesting example for this.

The article details the first week of life of a set of twins. Apparently each were in their respective incubators and one was not expected to live. A hospital nurse fought against the hospital rules and placed the babies in one incubator. When they were placed together, the healthier of the two, threw an arm over her sister in an endearing embrace. The smaller baby’s heart stabilized and temperature rose to normal.

Scientific research proofs the overal benefit of this kind of bonding, that means the deep influence which direct body contact has on man. One researcher, Mary Whalen, reports the following benefits:

Decreased number of apnea problems
Improved blood-oxygen levels
Increased weight gain
Better feeding
Greater temperature regulation
Decreased agitation
Decreased length of hospital stays and likelihood of re-admission

So just have a look if you want to get to know more about.

http://www.planetdeb.net/spirit/rescue.htm

http://www.snopes.com/glurge/hug.asp

http://www.integratedcatholiclife.org/2011/05/the-rescuing-hug/

Yunnan – diving into life

By: Ulrich Sollmann

30-06-2012

News

http://www.topchinatravel.com/pic/city/festivals/yunnan-festivals/international-cultural-and-travel-festival-1.jpg

Yunnan – diving into life

Yunnan province in China is famous for it´s wonderful and unique landscape as well as for it´s large variety of culture. Yunnan has a unique topography from high alpine to tropic landscape, plus a variety of climates. 26 ethnicities live there together, each one keeps it`s own language, conventions, religion and habits. Have a look at this video and enjoy the happiness of the people, the uniqueness of the nature and the harmony of life.

Besides all political and cultural aspects which show how life functions, how the different interests work together or not, it is also important to have a look on those aspects of life. This is, and I want to underline it, the, I may call it, atmosphere in which communication and living together happens.

So talking about (nonverbal) communication leads to these aspects of life. This helps to smell and to inhale life, a different life to one`s own life. This enables to jump into life. This sensibly forces to dive deep into an ocean of surprise.

http://www.topchinatravel.com/pic/city/festivals/yunnan-festivals/international-cultural-and-travel-festival-1.jpg

The skin is the message 4 – body painting and ritualisation –

The skin is the message 3 – Tattoo and shame –

The skin is the message 2 – Western body painting –

The skin is the message 1 – Chinese sun bathing

Chinese number gestures

The first impression 2

The first impression 1

Mc-body-reading

Rescuing hug

Yunnan – diving into life

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