If you marry a Chinese woman, then be prepared 😉
There’s an interesting and astonishing effect when marrying with a Chinese woman. Quite often when I talked to western men who married a Chinese woman, most of them agreed to the observed effect, which is like this:
Before the marriage Chinese women more often seem to be restrained, friendly, a little shy, ………
Read MoreForeigner? Who is the foreigner?
A good friend of mine who knowsChinavery well, told me two little stories, which I want to share with you. Maybe as a Chinese you know about this and maybe as a Westerner you’ll revitalize your stereotype thinking about Chinese:
Myths about eye contact
There’s a lot of information on eye-contact, the power of eye-contact. There are also a lot of stories and lore as well as there is a lot of scientific research being done.
So, hard to find orientation within this thicket of information, results and (personal or stereotype) opinion. There’s a new study which shows that eye-contact is
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“Drawing is like making an expressive gesture with the advantage of permanence.” — Henry Matisse
Matisse is a very famous French artist (painting). I just came across one of his remarkable sentences. This underlines that there is more than just body language or nonverbal communication performed by the body itself or by the person himself.
Painting and other art is so to say an objective of body language. An objective which can be regarded as a very personal expression and a cultural expression.
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Body language: genetic or learnt?
This is an amazing project ” Genetic portraits” by Ulric Collette
A photographic research work on genetic similarities between members of the same Family.
There’s an old ongoing question and discussion, which never will be answered I think. It’s the question if body-language is genetic or social-learned.
Or the question what was earlier in the world: …………
Read MoreFailure instead of discipline is necessary
如果能从失败中汲取教训，失败亦是成功。
Often people fear that they’re lost when they feel that efficiency and money as highest values. This happens often especially when you’re brought up in a culture of high discipline. In such an education, under such a development or in such a culture there’s no space for failure.
But to be honest; it’s very human, that ………..
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Unconscious body language of couples
While sleeping people usually behave very spontaneously. They are as they are, not self-controlled, not posing or doing anything special. Also while sleeping a couple behaves in a way that opens a deep insight into their relationship.
Nonverbally. They relate to each other in an unconscious way which mirrors their deep Connection and wishes for one another.
A Russian photographer once realized that many of her friends got pregnant. They as future parents…………
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found at: All about Chinese via facebook
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A hesitating gesture
Chinese, especially female Chinese, like to expose themselves being photographed. They place themselves right away in front of the camera and wait for the relieving pic to be taken. Often they face something around themselves in order to give an impression of being related to this or that. Just like the little girl being related to this beautiful lotus flower.
Two aspects strike my mind almost always when I am aware of such a scene. First they expose and relate but in a more or less hesitating gesture. If you look at the hands or arms of the little girl you will see what I mean. She reaches out, or better to say remains ………
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