Is there a difference between you and me? (An embodyed story -7-)
of course I could relax besides this young lady. I felt quite comfortable lying there when my attention always moved back to these faces. The puppets touched each other and gave the impression ” we belong together”. We are here and we know what we want. We are aware of YOU being here but we do NOT address you. We don`t want you to become important by ………
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Awareness and attention needs digestion (an embodyed story part -6-)
my attention jumped from one little detailed piece to another. There were so many that, if I had really jumped in too deep, it would have last ages to find orientation and not getting lost.
It is just like in real life I thought. Being confronted with so many details which cry for attention or being watched and observed that it would be too much for our little brain just to let go. Though letting go is a basic experience and principle to survive in this chaos which determins real life.
Being able to let go in this chaos, and I can tell you it is not easy at all, brings us to some resting pole in order to calm down. To calm down and digeste what we have seen and what has overwhelmed us without (often) consciously realizing it.
So to make it short: following the process of your awareness / attention always has to lead to moments of digesting. Otherwise we get lost in and by awareness.
So I want to invite you to lie down besides this beautiful looking jung lady, have a rest and enjoy.
Expression and impression (an embodyed story part 5)
Being caught by some detail I just had to look around. Had to stand still, move my head from one side to the other, facing a whole new world of creatures which I had never seen before. Creatures deriving from a continent of relevance which was and probably still is strange to me. Again I was fascinated by this world of creatures who started talking to me in a mother tongue which was familiar to me though not ………..
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Respect for a first detail is the start of exploration (an embodyed story part 4)
When I had entered the tiny shop or so to say small studio of the old woman my eyes first caught sight of this puppet which you can see on the photo. A lifeless puppet as it seems to be. Not really interesting. Not worth to enter the shop I said to myself. And yet the arrangement of the puppet without a head and the other stuff looked so strange and thus attractive, that I started looking around. Maybe it was the fact that there was this uncoordinated arrangement, with ……………
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An embodyed story (part 2)
some of you probably felt guided by those old hands to something in the past of this old woman, some hard work, some heavy experience or so. In any case you at once get an fate-impression which tells you a story, even if you don`t know anything about the history of this old woman.
This always happens if you get to know this or not.
This always happens if you are aware of this or not.
This always happens in any culture where you …..
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An embodyed story (part 1)
What is the secret of these hands?
And this a hint to how it happens as it happens:
I can tell you that this probably will happen to you wherever you are in the world.
How do you thing about? Do you agree?
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www.body-languages.de is online since one year 🙂
One year ago I started with www.body-languages.de. One year full of interesting experience, inspiring experience, doubts, hesitation, fresh energy, supporting feedback and courage to go on.
My main interest is and was to write about intercultural communication under the special perspective of body language that means nonverbal communication. To follow this road is carried by being convinced that this perspective is a broad perspective. Much broader than photographic body language often is reduced to. Body language always, in all cultures, is expression and impression at the same time. It is born in a certain society, culture and always related to the setting, the context. Body language is part of dialogue, communication und acting. And body language is created in and by dialogue.
I hope you will be interested in my posts as you did before. Of course I thank you for your support by communicating the link to your friends or other people. Or by feedback. Or by posting yourself. Please feel fre to post yorself whatever you think its worth to be reported. — All of course has to be related to body languaga, nonverbal intercultural communication.
You are welcome!!!!!
From tomorrow on I will start with a little photo story, which is related of course to body language. A story with one tiny chapter each day. You alread get a little curious? I hope so. 🙂
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Hesitating to put a direct personal question
If I’m interested in a person I ask him, put questions or show my interest to get to know more about this or that.
Chinese often hesitate to address me or others with a personal, direct question just like: “Oh, can you tell me more about your life or your children and so on”. This also can happen if you know each other better.
This does not mean that the Chinese isn’t interested, not at all! He is interested but tries to avoid putting the other into public. If he would put this direct personal question the other one either could feel himself obliged to show up with an answer or if he doesn’t want to do it to show up (in a personal way as a personal expression) he has to dissociate himself.
On the other hand I experience myself putting questions to a Chinese and being accepted by him. The Chinese answer, and I’m glad about the answer, but I can’t really distinguish if it is a personal answer which they want to give or if it is good behavior or an outcome from the hierarchy of our relationship.
But to be honest, it is quite important for me to know about this difference.
Sometimes I wonder if a Chinese puts himself the same question as I do.
Read MoreTo smell and to taste a new culture is to meet yourself
Some weeks ago I talked to a German manager and sinologist, who had worked in China for a couple of years. His first visit to China was about thirty years ago. Perfect in reading and writing, really well-experienced in relating to Chinese people, he knew, what he was talking about.
We talked about relating to Chinese people as well as to people from other cultures. Both we were convinced of a big difference in intercultural communication.
On the one hand it is almost too simple to doubt on this fact. On the other hand many people seem not to know the essence of the following message:
When you learn a language, when ……….
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Sex in ancient China…….
was meant:
There is a very old tradition in understanding sexuality like this and to practice certain sexual skills.
When talking to young Chinese I often ……….
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